Saturday, January 30, 2010

AN UNDESERVING NON CLIENT

I am not sure where he came from, but he will not take a deal. He will not take a gift, he wants better and more with out cost. He phoned a month ago in a rush, told me what he wanted to basically create and asked me to use my expertise in designing it. I was thrilled to design for a nice family of five especially the pantry and make it all efficient for them. Then back and forth; why did I not do this, why is this like this, why does your competetor do it this way for less money. Well there is not a competitor here because we are a custom cabinet shop and the other company is a custom, which module do you want store. Then I pull in my collegues to help me, thinking I am not doing a service here, but there we go around and around again. We all gave him a very good design with great beautiful decorative elements and he really does not want it. I don't know what he wants at this point. I know when I traveled the middle east in Arab counties, these men loved to haggle, I did not like to. I am a designer for excellence not for bidding. Well, yes he is of the handsome Arab background but he cannot finalize his little bidding engagement. So it has become a l0ose l0ose scenario and he did not even allow me to be generous upon commitment or completion. He was worried about his clothing falling over to the sides and I wanted to surprise him as a gift of these small lucite stands that hold sweaters in place. Now I am super behind in my work and I won't have time to be generous to or for him. Oh well, life must go on and I wish to be of service with my other delightful and appreciative clients.

IT HAPPENS EVERY DAY


It Happens Every Day
by Isabel Gillies


True story of her side of their divorce. Isabel Gillies is the beautiful actress that plays the wife of the star detective on Law & Order: S.V.U. I have always liked her, she stood out as a delightful delicate but strong rose on the t.v. show. I was happy to see her on the program again getting back with her husband after a time off. In her book I can hear between the lines and I can sense both sides of the abuse and a basically mediocre life together. Then they just 'fall' apart. I really became mad at the husband for is blatant laziness from keeping his word to his wife and family and she accepting his b.s. excuses and deceit. I think the book and typical story highlights exactly how our modern day society is so flaky that we disregard our ethics and commitments so easily. She was busy being a mother and working as a teacher, but all he did was teach and f... around, then he, yes he, broke the entire family apart as well as the parents of both his and hers. I cannot believe how this other woman can disregard all those concerns just for her own favor.

Monday, January 4, 2010

WRINKLE CITY

The Private Lives of Pippa Lee
by Rebecca Miller


Cute and well written story of this woman's life. She marries an older man and moves into a retirement village referred to as - wrinkle city. She reflects on her childhood as she shares her feelings about what she went through as she goes through the current changes of her life. Very enjoyable book.
My favorite quote: "Courtship is romantic, marriage is an act of will."

Sunday, January 3, 2010

RESILIENCE


Resilience: Reflections on the Burdens and Gifts of Facing Life's Adversities
by Elizabeth Edwards

In her book, Elizabeth Edwards so eloquently and gracefully shares her life with the reader. There is of course an emphasis on her personal trials; the loss of her son, her cancers and her husband's infidelity. But now I can understand why she had a stalker-fan that idolized her so. She is real woman, she is authentic, wise, sensitive, caring, honest, obviously well educated and quite literate. I loved this book for her expressive telling of a path she had to walk. It was from a happy and full life to a depressive paralysis she had to endure. She touched me deeply. She triumphed, even as she learns to let go of her life any time sooner or not so soon. She is my inspiration.
My favorite quote in which she shares her thoughts after some one asks her if is she getting over the loss of her son; If I had lost a leg, would anyone ask me, have I have gotten over the loss of my leg? No, they would ask me if I am adjusting to the loss of my leg. One learns to adjust to life, no one gets over the loss of her child.